Finally getting back to this post...
4) You may hear the phrase "happy wife, happy life". That, for the most part, is quite true. When she's happy, you will be happy. Kinda hard to have the latter without the former. However, that doesn't mean that you shouldn't concede every point of debate just to be happy. It does mean you need to communicate and debate in a loving manner so that you both can remain happy. There is almost always a happy middle ground when you are divided in opinion. Seek it out each time and you'll keep a peaceful, happy house.
5) I've found I'm happiest in my life/marriage whenever I consistently adopt Christ's humble servant attitude. As the psalmist says, "I'd rather be a doorkeeper in the house of my God than dwell in the tents of the wicked". This holds true in marriage as well. Don't strive for selfish interests. Make sure she has her cake and then you can have your piece. Don't keep score over who does what. Be the servant and do everything you possibly can for her (yes, even if it leaves you dead tired). If she is the godly woman I hope you end up with, she will seek to do the same for you and share the burdens.
6) Be merciful! You will probably be able to find a hundred things a day to nit pick your wife over. Resist the urge and maintain the peace. If you must address something (same thing happening over and over?), sandwich it in between a bunch of I love yous and use the sweetest tone you possibly can. Better to deal with things promptly that make you cringe every time you see it happen. If you're angry, wait until it fades before coming back to it (it will - refer to #'s 4 & 5 if you need motivation). Remember, she may not always be so merciful in return. That's on her. The better you are at your end, the better she'll likely be (or get) at hers.
Enough for now. Perhaps more later!
Love you!
Dad