I'm lying on the couch with a bad cold this morning - this glorious Christmas morning. Couldn't sleep due to my symptoms, so I rose early to spend some time with God. Have been watching videos of Pastor John Piper expound on the idea of "Christian hedonism" - that God is most glorified in us when we are most satisfied in him. Please find time to read his book or watch him preach on this topic - it will bless your life immensely. I may have written on this concept on here already. No problem - emphasis is a good thing!
I want so much for you, my sons, to know the same joy I have found in God, through an intimate relationship restored by the work of Jesus. These writings are all in vain if I only encourage you to seek worldly pleasures in this life. However, there are innumerable pleasures that, when we realize that they were graciously given to us by God, bring him glory when we delight in them.
Piper mentioned that the fruit of a joyous heart, delighting in God, is love. Not merely obedient servitude, but fervent, heart-felt, emotional love - sincerely wanting the very best for others, indeed God's best. So, the quick lesson for today before I enjoy a celebratory morning with you both is this: Your ability to love effectively (the horizontal relationships) is proportionally dependent on your satisfaction/contentment with God (the vertical relationship). Seek God's glory in every experience you can, requesting that you may find it and be enraptured by it! Thereby you can find contentment (joy/peace) in this life, and the love that you share throughout will leave a glorious legacy.
I love you boys so, so much - chiefly because I see God's glory in you so easily.
Merry Christmas!
Love,
Dad
Friday, December 25, 2015
Sunday, December 13, 2015
Don't Waste Your Time
Rhett, you and I are in the living room watching the baby channel while the rest of the house sleeps in. You keep reaching over and grabbing the hair on my leg and pulling vigorously - during commercial breaks, of course. Harry the Bunny and Rainbow Horse have your complete attention otherwise.
Mom and I watched a movie I checked out at the library. The title is of no concern. I picked it out thinking we would be watching an adventurous movie of someone hiking from the Mojave Desert to Canada. Most of it, however, was more concerned with telling the sad tale of a woman whose life was marred by drugs, adultery, divorce, and the death of her mother. She takes to the trail to "find herself", all the while cursing God and quoting vain philosophers. Because she ends the film (based on her highly successful book) talking about getting remarried and having two kids, one of which she names after her mother, she makes it seem as if she has reached a perfect ending. In truth, she is no better off than when she started - Godless, meaningless and hopeless. Other than some picturesque cinematography, the movie was a total waste of time for us.
I walked away resolved of two things - 1) I'd like to take the family, or at least you boys on a hike of the Appalachian or Pacific Crest Trail (whether in part/s or whole) and 2) not to waste more of my time on anti-Christian movies that peddle humanist philosophies.
While most Christian movies are generally poor quality, I don't have to suffer through them as an alternative. It is not my Christian duty to watch them (although there are some that are very, very good). There are media not intended to glorify God that can still be used for that purpose, and that can still enrich my life. For example, I can glorify God watching a 30 minute video simply highlighting the trails I spoke of above and getting exciting about them, exploring his beautiful creation.
Movies are just one way in which we can use/misuse our time. Best to give a little thought before committing to something. Would God want me to give ____ my attention?
Life is short, so focus the time he grants you on the positive. Meaning, on things Philippians 4:8,9:
"Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you."
I love you boys!
Dad
Mom and I watched a movie I checked out at the library. The title is of no concern. I picked it out thinking we would be watching an adventurous movie of someone hiking from the Mojave Desert to Canada. Most of it, however, was more concerned with telling the sad tale of a woman whose life was marred by drugs, adultery, divorce, and the death of her mother. She takes to the trail to "find herself", all the while cursing God and quoting vain philosophers. Because she ends the film (based on her highly successful book) talking about getting remarried and having two kids, one of which she names after her mother, she makes it seem as if she has reached a perfect ending. In truth, she is no better off than when she started - Godless, meaningless and hopeless. Other than some picturesque cinematography, the movie was a total waste of time for us.
I walked away resolved of two things - 1) I'd like to take the family, or at least you boys on a hike of the Appalachian or Pacific Crest Trail (whether in part/s or whole) and 2) not to waste more of my time on anti-Christian movies that peddle humanist philosophies.
While most Christian movies are generally poor quality, I don't have to suffer through them as an alternative. It is not my Christian duty to watch them (although there are some that are very, very good). There are media not intended to glorify God that can still be used for that purpose, and that can still enrich my life. For example, I can glorify God watching a 30 minute video simply highlighting the trails I spoke of above and getting exciting about them, exploring his beautiful creation.
Movies are just one way in which we can use/misuse our time. Best to give a little thought before committing to something. Would God want me to give ____ my attention?
Life is short, so focus the time he grants you on the positive. Meaning, on things Philippians 4:8,9:
"Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you."
I love you boys!
Dad
Tuesday, October 27, 2015
Guilty
The last few weeks I've noticed it's been getting longer and longer since I last posted on here. I think by now, though, I've covered most of the topics I really wanted to include. Mainly just wanted you to know I still care for you enough to consider this ongoing project important!
Was talking with Lili about father/son relational dynamics and how I received plenty of corrective discipline from my dad but not so much affection/affirmation (same as his dad with him). At least, in my younger years. He really changed for the better by the time I became an adult. By then, though, I feel like the pains of my growing up may have affected my thoughts/reactions/habits in a negative way. I must admit, I'm terribly scared of the possibility of doing that to you boys. Making a point of doling out as many, if not more, hugs and commendations as reprimands.
Just wanted you to know I was making concerted efforts to be the best dad I can be for you boys. I apologize in advance for the fact that, as a sinner, I will fall short plenty often. I will promise, however, that I will never give up trying to be better!
I love you boys and am so thankful for each day I get to spend with you.
- Dad (or "dodo" as Keegan has been calling me lately)
Was talking with Lili about father/son relational dynamics and how I received plenty of corrective discipline from my dad but not so much affection/affirmation (same as his dad with him). At least, in my younger years. He really changed for the better by the time I became an adult. By then, though, I feel like the pains of my growing up may have affected my thoughts/reactions/habits in a negative way. I must admit, I'm terribly scared of the possibility of doing that to you boys. Making a point of doling out as many, if not more, hugs and commendations as reprimands.
Just wanted you to know I was making concerted efforts to be the best dad I can be for you boys. I apologize in advance for the fact that, as a sinner, I will fall short plenty often. I will promise, however, that I will never give up trying to be better!
I love you boys and am so thankful for each day I get to spend with you.
- Dad (or "dodo" as Keegan has been calling me lately)
Sunday, September 13, 2015
Simplicity
Keegan and Rhett, you are watching "the Notekins" on the baby channel while I type this. You both are early risers and, since your mom is not (mostly because she spends a lot of time up with Rhett during the night), I have to be too! Doesn't bug me, though. I can always take a nap later if I need it, but I just enjoy hanging out with you boys.
I used to be in to all sorts of things growing up. Everything new and fascinating was my new and latest hobby. When contemplating my life to be, I always assumed I'd get to continue doing these same things while still enjoying a wife and kids and community.
Now that I'm here, I figure I should give you a little heads up - there's not going to be time for all those hobbies you're enjoying now. Not much "me" time. Your day will inevitably fill up with "grown up" duties - your job, chores at home, cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, babysitting, entertaining the family and your spouse. You won't have a lot of time left over for friends and neighbors, but in order to make more, you will have to give up even more "me" time. That leaves you with like... 15 mins a day.
I'm not going to dissuade you from exploring your world while growing up, but I would say it is a good idea to take on hobbies that are social in nature (things you can do with friends/neighbors) since your "me" time and social time would compete otherwise once you're older. Better yet, consider leaving yourself open to enjoying/sharing the interests of your family and friends. My hobby is now, well, people. I get into whatever I need to in order to spend time with those I want to connect with. I still get to explore - just now I'm letting others lead the way.
Not to mention, maintaining a simpler life when you're older is a LOT easier and a LOT cheaper. Which means (if I didn't have these student loans to repay), I wouldn't need to bring in a lot of money to maintain it. Less time working equals more time for family/friends... and yourself! Anyway, take from this what you will. Just happened to be on my mind. Glorify God in all you do!
I love you boys!
Dad
I used to be in to all sorts of things growing up. Everything new and fascinating was my new and latest hobby. When contemplating my life to be, I always assumed I'd get to continue doing these same things while still enjoying a wife and kids and community.
Now that I'm here, I figure I should give you a little heads up - there's not going to be time for all those hobbies you're enjoying now. Not much "me" time. Your day will inevitably fill up with "grown up" duties - your job, chores at home, cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, babysitting, entertaining the family and your spouse. You won't have a lot of time left over for friends and neighbors, but in order to make more, you will have to give up even more "me" time. That leaves you with like... 15 mins a day.
I'm not going to dissuade you from exploring your world while growing up, but I would say it is a good idea to take on hobbies that are social in nature (things you can do with friends/neighbors) since your "me" time and social time would compete otherwise once you're older. Better yet, consider leaving yourself open to enjoying/sharing the interests of your family and friends. My hobby is now, well, people. I get into whatever I need to in order to spend time with those I want to connect with. I still get to explore - just now I'm letting others lead the way.
Not to mention, maintaining a simpler life when you're older is a LOT easier and a LOT cheaper. Which means (if I didn't have these student loans to repay), I wouldn't need to bring in a lot of money to maintain it. Less time working equals more time for family/friends... and yourself! Anyway, take from this what you will. Just happened to be on my mind. Glorify God in all you do!
I love you boys!
Dad
Tuesday, September 1, 2015
Without Excuse
To borrow from a favorite pastor, Voddie Baucham, the motto of atheism is "there is no God... and I hate him!" If you ever debate one, the animosity towards God and Christians is evident. If God didn't exist, their whole platform for raging and pontificating becomes meaningless and they know that - while denying it all the same. Agnostics will tell you God hasn't given enough evidence for them to believe. But we all know in our hearts that it is absurd to think along those lines given the numerous proofs for God's existence.
One would think Jesus' miraculous entry and actions in the world to proclaim God's kingdom, glorious sovereignty, and unfathomable love for his sinful people would be enough. But even he would say "If they do not listen to Moses and the Prophets, they will not be convinced even if someone rises from the dead", meaning they have shut their ears and closed their hearts to the truth.
Paul says this in his letter to the Romans (chapter 1, emphases mine):
"The wrath of God is being revealed from heaven against all the godlessness and wickedness of people, who suppress the truth by their wickedness, since what may be known about God is plain to them, because God has made it plain to them. For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities—his eternal power and divine nature—have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that people are without excuse."
You are free to show an agnostic this passage and tell them God doesn't believe in agnostics. Of course, it should come as no surprise if they choose to suppress this truth as well. If such is the case, continue to pray for them - that God would intrusively speak to them as he once did for Paul and he has always done for his children. For we all were once dead in our sin (Ephesians 2, Colossians 2), enemies of God (Romans 5, Colossians 1), and closed to the truth. Only God can change the heart and make believers out of men.
I love you my sons,
Dad
One would think Jesus' miraculous entry and actions in the world to proclaim God's kingdom, glorious sovereignty, and unfathomable love for his sinful people would be enough. But even he would say "If they do not listen to Moses and the Prophets, they will not be convinced even if someone rises from the dead", meaning they have shut their ears and closed their hearts to the truth.
Paul says this in his letter to the Romans (chapter 1, emphases mine):
"The wrath of God is being revealed from heaven against all the godlessness and wickedness of people, who suppress the truth by their wickedness, since what may be known about God is plain to them, because God has made it plain to them. For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities—his eternal power and divine nature—have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that people are without excuse."
You are free to show an agnostic this passage and tell them God doesn't believe in agnostics. Of course, it should come as no surprise if they choose to suppress this truth as well. If such is the case, continue to pray for them - that God would intrusively speak to them as he once did for Paul and he has always done for his children. For we all were once dead in our sin (Ephesians 2, Colossians 2), enemies of God (Romans 5, Colossians 1), and closed to the truth. Only God can change the heart and make believers out of men.
I love you my sons,
Dad
Saturday, August 22, 2015
The Path to Peace
I was on my drive to work yesterday, enjoying some prayer and meditation time, and a song came on which never fails to bring back memories - "The Way of Wisdom" by Michael Card, from an album by the same name he recorded to reflect themes from the wisdom literature in the bible (Ecclesiastes, Job, Psalms, Proverbs, etc).
I was first introduced to this song back in the early 90's, when my brother liked to play it often in the car while our family drove around town in Virginia. I guess that's one of the reasons I like it so much. Brings back warm memories of family.
I had to pause and give some thought to one of the lines this time around.
"...the path to peace is forgiving"
How true that is. Our peace is interrupted daily by the actions of sinful people like ourselves. Regardless of whether there was actually any malicious intent, our selfish impulse is to cry foul and hold bitterness against them - be it anything from a hurtful word to simply getting cut off in traffic.
We can't help or escape living among others (and continue to follow God's prescriptive will for us, anyway), and those infractions will come at us ceaselessly. We can't control them, but we CAN control ourselves and our response. Forgiveness can bring that peace back. Bitterness keeps it at bay for as long as we entertain those feelings.
Do you want a peaceful existence? Learn to forgive quickly and often. Perhaps a quick prayer for yourself or the offending party is all it may take to stifle the urge to dwell in unsettled misery. Focus on Jesus in those instances and you'll find your peace restored.
I love you boys!
Dad
I was first introduced to this song back in the early 90's, when my brother liked to play it often in the car while our family drove around town in Virginia. I guess that's one of the reasons I like it so much. Brings back warm memories of family.
I had to pause and give some thought to one of the lines this time around.
"...the path to peace is forgiving"
How true that is. Our peace is interrupted daily by the actions of sinful people like ourselves. Regardless of whether there was actually any malicious intent, our selfish impulse is to cry foul and hold bitterness against them - be it anything from a hurtful word to simply getting cut off in traffic.
We can't help or escape living among others (and continue to follow God's prescriptive will for us, anyway), and those infractions will come at us ceaselessly. We can't control them, but we CAN control ourselves and our response. Forgiveness can bring that peace back. Bitterness keeps it at bay for as long as we entertain those feelings.
Do you want a peaceful existence? Learn to forgive quickly and often. Perhaps a quick prayer for yourself or the offending party is all it may take to stifle the urge to dwell in unsettled misery. Focus on Jesus in those instances and you'll find your peace restored.
I love you boys!
Dad
Friday, August 7, 2015
Fighting
It's a violent world we live in. Eventually, and more often than we'd like to, we cross paths with violent people who desire for whatever reason to inflict injury on us. Usually it's just words. The kind that indict the speaker of insecurity more so than cause any real damage, because we know who we are and whose we are (and only His opinion really matters). When they do this, it's great, because they've identified themselves as a threat and we can distance ourselves from them - probably 99% of the time if we're smart, keep our cool and don't wait around for escalation. But sometimes they cross the line and either force physical altercation on us or on someone we love and we simply must respond.
At times like these, it is permissible to fight. It is okay to exert just enough force to subdue the attacker and stifle the threat. We're under no mandate to stand and take a beating. And certainly, if we're protecting someone else, the greater good (or lesser of two evils) is being sought. Hopefully, both parties can walk away having learned a lesson from the encounter.
Sometimes the situation is life-threatening (ex- home invasion). If they are armed with a deadly weapon, it is advisable to use deadly force rather than attempt to subdue them. Don't wait for them to initiate (they already have if they're in your home) or simply try to injure them because you're afraid of ending a life. Protect your family. This is why I would recommend keeping a gun (or guns) in the home. If you don't have a family, use your best judgement. You may risk your life for a potentially better outcome if you choose.
I've been studying martial arts lately. Not training - yet, just trying to understand the world of violence and how best to defend against it. The best martial art would be a mix of many, because they all have strengths and weaknesses. Probably the most peaceable and useful are wrestling/jiu jitsu because you attempt to take the attacker to the ground and neutralize them there with submission holds. Trying to stand toe-to-toe swinging punches and kicks, you're just as likely to get KO'd as the other person (not a smart way of fighting).
I'll try to train you both in these disciplines, because they are useful for body conditioning and confidence building in addition to the self/others protection already mentioned. Better to have it and not need it than need it and not have it.
Beyond this let me comment on a couple things. Under NO circumstance is it okay to avenge yourselves or even others if the encounter has passed (Romans 12:19). The government exists for that, and you know God will ultimately bring justice. I see many young hot-heads who think they're good at fighting who then begin instigating fights to prove how tough/"manly" they are. If you seek fights, you will die an early death. Also, don't involve yourselves with fighting sports where it's essentially no different than human cock-fighting and women walk around half-nude to help promote it (ex- UFC). Those events cater to the lustful/bloodthirsty. That's not for us. God holds us all to HIS standard.
Respect life, love your enemies, and try to keep His interests for us in mind, and you can't go too far wrong.
I love you guys!
Dad
At times like these, it is permissible to fight. It is okay to exert just enough force to subdue the attacker and stifle the threat. We're under no mandate to stand and take a beating. And certainly, if we're protecting someone else, the greater good (or lesser of two evils) is being sought. Hopefully, both parties can walk away having learned a lesson from the encounter.
Sometimes the situation is life-threatening (ex- home invasion). If they are armed with a deadly weapon, it is advisable to use deadly force rather than attempt to subdue them. Don't wait for them to initiate (they already have if they're in your home) or simply try to injure them because you're afraid of ending a life. Protect your family. This is why I would recommend keeping a gun (or guns) in the home. If you don't have a family, use your best judgement. You may risk your life for a potentially better outcome if you choose.
I've been studying martial arts lately. Not training - yet, just trying to understand the world of violence and how best to defend against it. The best martial art would be a mix of many, because they all have strengths and weaknesses. Probably the most peaceable and useful are wrestling/jiu jitsu because you attempt to take the attacker to the ground and neutralize them there with submission holds. Trying to stand toe-to-toe swinging punches and kicks, you're just as likely to get KO'd as the other person (not a smart way of fighting).
I'll try to train you both in these disciplines, because they are useful for body conditioning and confidence building in addition to the self/others protection already mentioned. Better to have it and not need it than need it and not have it.
Beyond this let me comment on a couple things. Under NO circumstance is it okay to avenge yourselves or even others if the encounter has passed (Romans 12:19). The government exists for that, and you know God will ultimately bring justice. I see many young hot-heads who think they're good at fighting who then begin instigating fights to prove how tough/"manly" they are. If you seek fights, you will die an early death. Also, don't involve yourselves with fighting sports where it's essentially no different than human cock-fighting and women walk around half-nude to help promote it (ex- UFC). Those events cater to the lustful/bloodthirsty. That's not for us. God holds us all to HIS standard.
Respect life, love your enemies, and try to keep His interests for us in mind, and you can't go too far wrong.
I love you guys!
Dad
Saturday, July 18, 2015
Fun
I'm sitting in the study this morning, trying to type quietly as Rhett lays in his baby cot below snoring softly. Figuring out which topics to discuss on this is rather difficult. Too many things I could weigh in on. Going to have to leave the majority of them for you to learn through experience, I guess. Going to have to put my trust in God to lead you by his spirit along with the godly men and women he places in your lives.
One thing that does come to mind is the idea of balancing work/fun. In a world like this where it seems there is always someone in need, we may think we should be working all the time to alleviate those needs. Well, that is why the Lord designated 6 days for work out of 7. Most of the time we should be working. The idea of "retirement", where one does nothing but play golf and watch tv all day is ungodly.
We don't have to be pharisaichal about this. There are times when it is appropriate to work through the sabbath (when it is unavoidable due to the need at hand), and times when it is ok to relax for more than one day at a time. But these are exceptions to the general rule of life - work hard! ...but save some time for rest/rejuvenation/worship. It is also okay to work and rest/play in the same day. We must not forget the intent behind God's weekly plan:
"The sabbath was made for man" - Jesus, Mark 2:27
God ordained a time to put up the work and rest joyfully in his presence. Some may turn this into a labor in itself - you must do this and/or that to observe the sabbath correctly. Don't fall into that error, or its opposite - being lazy and selfish, ignoring the call to worship with God's people.
Play is an acceptable form of rest/rejuvenation. God delights in us delighting in his creation and our freedom. As John Piper says, "God is most glorified in us when we are most satisfied in him". A loving father wants his kids to have fun amongst all the work to be done. Find whatever lifts your spirit and go enjoy it!
Be prudent about your choices - "all things are lawful for me", but not all things are helpful - 1 Cor 6:12, 10:23. For example, choosing to spend all your time playing video games by yourself - fun, sure, but you'll get fat, vitamin-D deficient, and friendless : P and many video games have you practicing ungodly behavior within them anyway. Make sure to balance fun with work responsibly and don't allow your spirit to lose its sense of wonder and passion!
I love you boys,
Dad
One thing that does come to mind is the idea of balancing work/fun. In a world like this where it seems there is always someone in need, we may think we should be working all the time to alleviate those needs. Well, that is why the Lord designated 6 days for work out of 7. Most of the time we should be working. The idea of "retirement", where one does nothing but play golf and watch tv all day is ungodly.
We don't have to be pharisaichal about this. There are times when it is appropriate to work through the sabbath (when it is unavoidable due to the need at hand), and times when it is ok to relax for more than one day at a time. But these are exceptions to the general rule of life - work hard! ...but save some time for rest/rejuvenation/worship. It is also okay to work and rest/play in the same day. We must not forget the intent behind God's weekly plan:
"The sabbath was made for man" - Jesus, Mark 2:27
God ordained a time to put up the work and rest joyfully in his presence. Some may turn this into a labor in itself - you must do this and/or that to observe the sabbath correctly. Don't fall into that error, or its opposite - being lazy and selfish, ignoring the call to worship with God's people.
Play is an acceptable form of rest/rejuvenation. God delights in us delighting in his creation and our freedom. As John Piper says, "God is most glorified in us when we are most satisfied in him". A loving father wants his kids to have fun amongst all the work to be done. Find whatever lifts your spirit and go enjoy it!
Be prudent about your choices - "all things are lawful for me", but not all things are helpful - 1 Cor 6:12, 10:23. For example, choosing to spend all your time playing video games by yourself - fun, sure, but you'll get fat, vitamin-D deficient, and friendless : P and many video games have you practicing ungodly behavior within them anyway. Make sure to balance fun with work responsibly and don't allow your spirit to lose its sense of wonder and passion!
I love you boys,
Dad
Saturday, July 11, 2015
God's Law
Recent events in this country's history directed my attention to the importance of God's sovereign, unchanging law - the absolute standards by which we judge good and evil. The Supreme Court has ruled homosexual marriage to be legitimate and has ordered all states to comply with granting them licenses. Obviously the U.S. has gone astray here. We must always remember, as God's people, we belong to His kingdom and not to any geo-political entity here. We can bless a nation by our presence/deeds, much like Daniel in Babylon, but we can never forget that worldly nations will always hate Christians and will continue to ostracize and persecute us, even those founded by Christian men.
Many Christians believe wrongly that the law is of no more importance to us since we are forgiven once and for all from any sin debt. While the latter is true, the law still has tremendous importance, as discussed in this excerpt from a devotional I subscribe to:
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Many Christians believe wrongly that the law is of no more importance to us since we are forgiven once and for all from any sin debt. While the latter is true, the law still has tremendous importance, as discussed in this excerpt from a devotional I subscribe to:
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Romans 7:12: “Therefore the law is holy, and the commandment holy and just and good.”
Romans 7:22: “For I delight in the law of God according to the inward man.”
Does this sound like a man who believed the law of God has no place in the Christian life? Read Paul’s writings carefully and you will find a man whose heart longed for the law of God as much as David’s.
The law drives us to the gospel. The gospel saves us from the curse of the law, but in turn directs us back to the law to search its spirit. The law of God is still a lamp to our feet. Without it we stumble and trip and grope in darkness.
For the Christian, the greatest benefit of the law of God is its revelatory character. The law reveals to us the Lawgiver. It teaches us what is pleasing in His sight.
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Yes, we must study the law to better know the character of God. We can come to delight in his goodness, justice, mercy, and holiness. While we are forgiven of wrongdoing, the law shows us how to avoid offending God in the first place. We will not obtain perfection this side of glory, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't strive for obedience. He does, afterall, promise blessings in the here and now for those that honor him with their lives (not talking "health/wealth gospel" here, though). Take time to study the law and how it applies to us today.
I love you guys!
Dad
Friday, July 10, 2015
Tough Job
"Hey buddy!"
That's my preferred address for each of you it seems. I love how you, Keegan, are always running up to me to put books or toys in my lap in a not-so-subtle way of saying you want attention. Sometimes you bring me my flip-flops, meaning you want me to take you outside. It appears you don't care what we do so long as you get to do it with me. Funny, that's how I feel about you boys too. Keegan, I'll reread your truck book for the millionth time if I get to hold you in my lap again. Rhett, I know it will be no different when you're a bit older. In the meantime, I get to study your face as I feed you a bottle. Truth is, I'm really looking forward to being your buddy as you two grow up. So many things I daydream of enjoying with you.
I'm fatigued and finding it difficult to motivate myself to write these days. Back to zombie mode since bringing Rhett home and rediscovering what life is like on 6 or less hours of sleep a night. Trying to take care of the priorities with the energy and time I do have - helping your mom with babysitting and household chores, keeping Keegan entertained, taking the family places to break up the periods of being homebound, Bible studying, keeping up with friends/family, etc.
But then I hear about some local tragedy, like a fatal wreck on Hwy 17a (my commute road to work) yesterday, and it reminds me I better get back to this in case I get taken home earlier than expected. My new life insurance policy doesn't take effect for another 9 days and it scares me somewhat. I know I need to place more faith in my God in this regard ("do not be anxious about anything..."), but you may understand what I mean if/when you have kids someday. You want so bad to make sure they are provided for if something were to happen to you.
Only lesson here is, if I'm gone, it's up to you two to look after your mother. Yes, you will have plenty of help from our respective families, but don't forget you will be her primary caretakers. She's a tough woman, though, and probably won't need much help until she's older. I trust you will use your good judgement in determining how best to do that. Companionship would mean the most to her, I can tell you that much.
As men, looking after the welfare of others is our biggest responsibility. Family first, but also those in your community - even strangers. Think Golden Rule and you'll be fine. Don't get caught up trying to help everyone ("savior complex" they call it). Sometimes you'll just have to leave people in God's gracious hands (he cares even for the sparrows, afterall). But we are tasked to accomplish good works wherever we find ourselves. That may mean sacrificing things we would like - a LOT. Be it play time, "chill" time, workout time (I haven't run for almost 2 years), sleep time, money, that last piece of dessert, etc. It's not easy, but it is rewarding. JOY = Jesus, Others, Yourself. Reevaluate your use of time often and prioritize as needed.
That's all for now. I love you guys!
Dad
That's my preferred address for each of you it seems. I love how you, Keegan, are always running up to me to put books or toys in my lap in a not-so-subtle way of saying you want attention. Sometimes you bring me my flip-flops, meaning you want me to take you outside. It appears you don't care what we do so long as you get to do it with me. Funny, that's how I feel about you boys too. Keegan, I'll reread your truck book for the millionth time if I get to hold you in my lap again. Rhett, I know it will be no different when you're a bit older. In the meantime, I get to study your face as I feed you a bottle. Truth is, I'm really looking forward to being your buddy as you two grow up. So many things I daydream of enjoying with you.
I'm fatigued and finding it difficult to motivate myself to write these days. Back to zombie mode since bringing Rhett home and rediscovering what life is like on 6 or less hours of sleep a night. Trying to take care of the priorities with the energy and time I do have - helping your mom with babysitting and household chores, keeping Keegan entertained, taking the family places to break up the periods of being homebound, Bible studying, keeping up with friends/family, etc.
But then I hear about some local tragedy, like a fatal wreck on Hwy 17a (my commute road to work) yesterday, and it reminds me I better get back to this in case I get taken home earlier than expected. My new life insurance policy doesn't take effect for another 9 days and it scares me somewhat. I know I need to place more faith in my God in this regard ("do not be anxious about anything..."), but you may understand what I mean if/when you have kids someday. You want so bad to make sure they are provided for if something were to happen to you.
Only lesson here is, if I'm gone, it's up to you two to look after your mother. Yes, you will have plenty of help from our respective families, but don't forget you will be her primary caretakers. She's a tough woman, though, and probably won't need much help until she's older. I trust you will use your good judgement in determining how best to do that. Companionship would mean the most to her, I can tell you that much.
As men, looking after the welfare of others is our biggest responsibility. Family first, but also those in your community - even strangers. Think Golden Rule and you'll be fine. Don't get caught up trying to help everyone ("savior complex" they call it). Sometimes you'll just have to leave people in God's gracious hands (he cares even for the sparrows, afterall). But we are tasked to accomplish good works wherever we find ourselves. That may mean sacrificing things we would like - a LOT. Be it play time, "chill" time, workout time (I haven't run for almost 2 years), sleep time, money, that last piece of dessert, etc. It's not easy, but it is rewarding. JOY = Jesus, Others, Yourself. Reevaluate your use of time often and prioritize as needed.
That's all for now. I love you guys!
Dad
Tuesday, June 16, 2015
Aspirations
I've joked around with your mom about what you guys might become when you grow up. Keegan, you can't go anywhere without music. You'll mash the music button on your toys incessantly. As mentioned before, you love anything with wheels. You also can't stand to come in from outside. Would probably hang out in our backyard all day if I let you. Can't tell if you're going to be a musician, a mechanic, or a farmer/outdoorsman.
Rhett, it's a bit early to pick out your inclinations, but you certainly speak your mind at times. Great projection, I must say. Mom thought Keegan was going to be the next Billy Graham. My thought was you'd be a pastor and he'd be the music minister.
That's just us having fun, though. I only hope to help provide you both with opportunities to discover what ways you'd like to spend your time. I'd be just as proud of you if you were a janitor vs an evangelist, politician, sports star, or whatever. As long as you devote whatever you do to honor your God, it matters.
As they say, remember, David wasn't a mighty man by human standards. All he could really do was sling rocks. But he did so to honor the Lord. God gave him great courage and sense of purpose. The rest is history. Do everything to honor the Lord and not yourself before men and you will be used greatly for his kingdom.
Above all, remember the Lord's commandments and his great commission, along with your purpose (previous post), and your life will be well spent.
I love you two and I'm already proud to call myself your father. I thank God he decided to give me both of you.
- Dad
Rhett, it's a bit early to pick out your inclinations, but you certainly speak your mind at times. Great projection, I must say. Mom thought Keegan was going to be the next Billy Graham. My thought was you'd be a pastor and he'd be the music minister.
That's just us having fun, though. I only hope to help provide you both with opportunities to discover what ways you'd like to spend your time. I'd be just as proud of you if you were a janitor vs an evangelist, politician, sports star, or whatever. As long as you devote whatever you do to honor your God, it matters.
As they say, remember, David wasn't a mighty man by human standards. All he could really do was sling rocks. But he did so to honor the Lord. God gave him great courage and sense of purpose. The rest is history. Do everything to honor the Lord and not yourself before men and you will be used greatly for his kingdom.
Above all, remember the Lord's commandments and his great commission, along with your purpose (previous post), and your life will be well spent.
I love you two and I'm already proud to call myself your father. I thank God he decided to give me both of you.
- Dad
A Hiser Comes Home
We brought Rhett home from the hospital this week. Mom and I are trying to figure out the new routine for caring for you two. Not a lot of sleep, but you guys are worth it. Keegan, I took you to the local Target to get more baby supplies. Usually you hate that place, but I got you a cherry Icee and you were a saint for the whole trip. Paid for it later this evening, though. I think the sugar rush had you at high gear way past your bedtime. I didn't mind so much - I like having you around. We ended up watching the NBA Finals on the couch together and then wrestled on the floor. Your laughs are contagious.
Rhett, your eyes locked on to me today. Seemed you were looking right into my soul. You were in such peace at that moment - like you were reassuring me everything was going to be just fine. I think your eyes may turn out blue. Of course, I thought the same about Keegan's. Hey, pops doesn't know everything!
This family is great. I love it! May we have many good years together.
Love,
Dad
Rhett, your eyes locked on to me today. Seemed you were looking right into my soul. You were in such peace at that moment - like you were reassuring me everything was going to be just fine. I think your eyes may turn out blue. Of course, I thought the same about Keegan's. Hey, pops doesn't know everything!
This family is great. I love it! May we have many good years together.
Love,
Dad
Purpose
Q. 1. What is the chief end of man?
A. Man's chief end is to glorify God, [a] and to enjoy him for ever. [b]
[a]. Ps. 86:9; Isa. 60:21; Rom. 11:36; I Cor. 6:20; 10:31; Rev. 4:11
[b]. Ps. 16:5-11; 144:15; Isa. 12:2; Luke 2:10; Phil. 4:4; Rev. 21:3-4
[b]. Ps. 16:5-11; 144:15; Isa. 12:2; Luke 2:10; Phil. 4:4; Rev. 21:3-4
Psalm 86:9
All the nations you have made shall come
and worship before you, O Lord,
and shall glorify your name.
Isaiah 60:21
Your people shall all be righteous;
they shall possess the land forever,
the branch of my planting, the work of my hands,
that I might be glorified.
Romans 11:36
For from him and through him and to him are all things. To him be glory forever. Amen.
1 Corinthians 6:20
for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.
1 Corinthians 10:31
So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.
Revelation 4:11
Worthy are you, our Lord and God,
to receive glory and honor and power,
for you created all things,
and by your will they existed and were created.
Psalm 16:5-11
The Lord is my chosen portion and my cup;
you hold my lot.
The lines have fallen for me in pleasant places;
indeed, I have a beautiful inheritance.
I bless the Lord who gives me counsel;
in the night also my heart instructs me.
I have set the Lord always before me;
because he is at my right hand, I shall not be shaken.
Therefore my heart is glad, and my whole being rejoices;
my flesh also dwells secure.
For you will not abandon my soul to Sheol,
or let your holy one see corruption.
You make known to me the path of life;
in your presence there is fullness of joy;
at your right hand are pleasures forevermore.
Psalm 144:15
Blessed are the people to whom such blessings fall!
Blessed are the people whose God is the Lord!
Isaiah 12:2
Behold, God is my salvation;
I will trust, and will not be afraid;
for the Lord God is my strength and my song,
and he has become my salvation.
Luke 2:10
And the angel said to them, “Fear not, for behold, I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people."
Philippians 4:4
Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice.
Revelation 21:3-4
And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, “Behold, the dwelling place of God is with man. He will dwell with them, and they will be his people, and God himself will be with them as their God. He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.”
Sunday, May 24, 2015
Mechanically Minded
Keegan,
I'm on the back porch watching you play while mom cooks dinner. you like to flip your cars over and spin the wheels. You also like to get down on all fours, putting your head down to get a ground eye view of things as if you're inspecting them. Quite entertaining : )
I wonder what you might become when you grow up. My money right now is on a musician/farmer...
Love,
Dad
Monday, May 18, 2015
Backyard Teleology
Keegan,
You and I are hanging out on the back deck as I ponder my next post. You're talking happily in some unknown toddler tongue as you sit contentedly in your "Little Tikes Cozy Coupe" spinning the steering wheel. Since birth, you've been a fanatic about anything with wheels, and that classic toy car is no exception. Your mom got it for an astounding $1 at a yard sale. Surprised you haven't driven if off the side in full tilt yet. Doubtless, when I try to pull you out of there you're going to give me a piece of your mind...
I love seeing you so happy!
- Dad
Intro
My dear sons Keegan and Rhett,
At the time I am writing this, Keegan, you are almost two years old and, Rhett, you will be born in just a few weeks. If I had 10,000 years to hold you close to me, it would not be enough. I love you both with an unstifled passion. My hope is that our gracious heavenly Father will grant me a long life shared with our family, filled with adventures and abundant with love, joy and peace.
These notes are for if he chooses to bring me home before then. He has placed in my heart a desire to mentor and encourage you, helping you grow in godly character. Lord willing, I'll get to do that in person and these will just be, well, an opportunity to organize my thoughts.
I'll attempt to hand down my perspectives on life and anything the Lord places on my heart to share with you. I am an imperfect man and may even get some of these things wrong, especially when I venture into areas where his word is not clearly laid out for us. I trust the Lord will guide you too, as he promised, and will help you take away from these notes exactly what you need to.
Be strong. Be righteous. Love God and others.
I love you!
- Dad
"...But as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord."
Joshua 24:15
At the time I am writing this, Keegan, you are almost two years old and, Rhett, you will be born in just a few weeks. If I had 10,000 years to hold you close to me, it would not be enough. I love you both with an unstifled passion. My hope is that our gracious heavenly Father will grant me a long life shared with our family, filled with adventures and abundant with love, joy and peace.
These notes are for if he chooses to bring me home before then. He has placed in my heart a desire to mentor and encourage you, helping you grow in godly character. Lord willing, I'll get to do that in person and these will just be, well, an opportunity to organize my thoughts.
I'll attempt to hand down my perspectives on life and anything the Lord places on my heart to share with you. I am an imperfect man and may even get some of these things wrong, especially when I venture into areas where his word is not clearly laid out for us. I trust the Lord will guide you too, as he promised, and will help you take away from these notes exactly what you need to.
Be strong. Be righteous. Love God and others.
I love you!
- Dad
"...But as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord."
Joshua 24:15
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